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African Children: The Hottest Accessory For Rich White Women

Brian and I had no idea when moving to Beverly Hills how in-style we would be as adoptive parents.

Lately (aside from the park where everyone thinks he is a criminal), Brian has been mistaken for either an actor or a professional athlete – even with tourists coming up and snapping pictures of him.
He’d like to think it is his good looks…. but we quickly realized it is when he is out with Samuel that is triggering these cases of mistaken identity. (I, however, have only been mistaken for the babysitter….)

International and transracial adoptions are quickly sweeping over Hollywood.
Angelina Jolie, Katherine Heigl, and Madonna all recently adopted internationally.

Ethiopian adoptions doubled following Angelina Jolie’s adoption of her daughter.

So what is the harm in being inspired by celebrity adoptions? I guess nothing if you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Some people have argued that through this process all of the people doing it to be fashionable would be weeded out because it is so long and strenuous. I completely disagree.

If you have enough money, most of the adoption can be taken care of through your attorney with little to no fuss from the prospective adoptive parents.  Also, the waiting isn’t nearly as demanding if you’re not waiting for something your heart is aching for….and certain countries the wait is much less.

A good example of a “bad” adoption is Casey Johnson. She was the heiress of the J&J brand, and adopted a little girl from Kazakhstan. She originally tried to adopt from Cambodia (“inspired” by Angelina Jolie) but the country actually turned her away (hmm…) However, after another celebrity friend introduced her to her baby from Kazakhstan she was again inspired to adopt. This time the country let her go through.  Her daughter soon after adoption was quickly taken away from her, and went to live with her grandparents (Casey’s parents). Casey’s mother was afraid for the little girl’s safety living with her adopted mother. Casey was a drug addict and a complete train-wreck.  She ended up losing her life due to poor lifestyle choices.

In areas like Beverly Hills where it is important to someone’s wellbeing to be on trend, it would not be uncommon for such an outlandish objective.

The big concern is what happens when, like all fads, this one fades? Or, like in the case of Casey Johnson, the person is not fit to raise a child.

And adoption is becoming such a trend it is also blowing up in predominantly white churches across the nation.

I was talking to a friend that was questioning some of the motives of the people at the church she goes to, when it comes to international adoption.

She was complaining about suddenly being bombarded with “however-million-orphans minus one” videos, t-shirts, and other propaganda that either glorifies the parents or tries to push for international adoptions as a means to save a life.

**I personally, know people who have used that line in their videos and I think their motives were great for adopting, so please don’t be offended if you’re reading this**

I hope that any potential adoptive parents know:
if you’re doing this for any other reason that wanting a child in your family, you are in for a big wake-up call.

It is something almost anyone can do, but it doesn’t mean everyone should do it.

12 responses to “African Children: The Hottest Accessory For Rich White Women

  1. Jen

    Love this post! Love this blog! Bravo! 🙂

  2. Jen

    Thanks for your nice post, and you have to write what I just wrote on my blog. I don’t even know you – but had just read your blog, then minutes later I have this TV producer in my living room (no, i am not on crack…this is real) talking about how he and his partner (from L.A.) adopted a black child… and they used the attorney that ALL the celebrities use. I kept thinking about your post and wanted to die laughing!

  3. Jen

    I meant “read” what I just wrote. Duh.

    • Jamie

      Jen! Thank you so much for the compliment! I’m checking out your blog now. (I went to it earlier and posted a comment, but I think that was before your latest entry)

  4. Kate

    Love this post. I went to speak to a group of prospective adoptive parents the night I had heard that Madonna had adopted a black baby and I remember saying to the group, “I think little black babies are replacing the purse puppies of the Paris Hilton era….”

  5. rendiggy ⋅

    I agree, with one caveat. I think it’s ok for *one* of the reasons you adopt to be wanting to help a child. Yes, you should also want to grow your family, but if you just want to grow your family and you have no fertility concerns, then you get preggers. Reaching out to get people to care about the plight of the orphan and want to help is what’s going to spread adoption beyond infertile couples, making it more mainstream and hopefully emptying those orphanages. Because, at the end of the day, an orphanage is a crummy place to grow up and these kids deserve better.

    • Jamie

      I definitely see what you’re saying, but we have really no fertility issues and adoption was always our first choice (our bio son was a lovely surprise, though!)….
      For me, aside from expanding our family, part of the attraction was connecting with a country that respected and I wanted to be a part of. I think there are more proactive ways of keeping the children out of the orphanages than international adoption, like providing aid to the country and medical relief and keeping their parents alive. The amount of money we spent for this adoption could clearly have gone to aiding many more people than just one child. I’m playing devil’s advocate here, because I see your point…but I just think it is so important to see the bigger picture in the orphan crisis. I love adoption. I think it is beautiful….but we need to do more than that for the children that are without families.

  6. Yvonne ⋅

    I’m adopted. The only thing I have to say about international adoption is that while it’s wonderful, and I would love to do it myself one day, I wish that people would remember there are thousands of children right here at home that ache for families of their own.

    • Jamie

      I agree. I think it is a greatly misconceived notion that children in certain countries are “more needy” than a child in a country like the US. I think adding to your family in any form is so personal I also think it is important to add that people choose intercountry adoption for many different reasons, and that should also not be judged because it is such a personal choice…but people that want to add to their family through adoption should not soley pick a developing country because they think the children need homes more over there. That is just ignorance.

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