Lately, it seems like horror stories of international adoptions (mainly from Eastern Europe) have been flooding the airways.
Unfortunately, it seems like the majority of information is inaccurate or is overblown.
It is true that some children that come from institutionalized settings do suffer from RAD, but this is still rare, and the majority of cases can be worked through. Most children from African countries do not have these issues, but there are a number of American children in the foster care system that do.
So, why is the media making such a big deal about international adoption, specifically? I have come to find out that the UN (UNICEF specifically) is anti-adoption. Yes, that is right- the same UN that international adoption mother extraordinaire, Angelina Jolie, is a Goodwill Ambassador for.
You can read their official stance HERE
Basically, this is how they break it down:
1. A child should be cared for by his or her parent- Well, duh…Fortunately, we live in a Judeo-Christian culture and as we understand it most people willingly want to care and love their own children. However there are MANY other cultures that clash with these principles for various reasons.
2. If a parent cannot care for a child an alternate family member should- Again, most cultures would potentially have a huge problem with this. If the mother had become pregnant out of wedlock she could be looked down upon, and potentially her life could be at risk. Many times (this is the case in Ethiopia) the mother is disowned from the family.
3. If a family member cannot care for the child a non-institutionalized alternate arrangement should be made- Great idea, but when does this actually happen???? If the country is third-world there are not many people who can take on an adopted child.
4. If the citizens of the country are not attempting to take in the child an institutionalized setting is the best and final option- Seriously!? This is the same setting that causes Reactive Attachment Disorder and screws up children for life. There is no option after this! Yes, they would prefer for the child to live out their days in an institution and go on to potentially live in extreme poverty when released as adults rather than be adopted by a family from another country!
They go on to say that international adoption is corrupt an they are trying to implement the Hague Treaty for all international adoptions. Unfortunately, the Hague Treaty sounds wonderful, but almost all Hague countries close down international adoptions after they become Hague.
Money. Isn’t that always why? They lose money when citizens are exported.
Unfortunately, they hide behind celebrities like Jolie that say she is willling to consider another adoption from Haiti, but they will announce ‘Adoption Not the Best Choice for Quake Orphans’
With all that being said, there are some bad adoption agencies.
We were planning on going with CWA when we first were looking into the process. As we stared researching we heard horror stories from adoptive parents about them. It was so bad we had to question adopting at all. We ditched our application deposit and went with a very ethical agency.
a few days ago this expose on CWA aired on CBS (some of the gripes from the adoptive parents are obvious BS, like the chilrens inaccurate age, but CWA seems to be bad news):